Look what the cat dragged in... ThatgirlJamika! It's been too long since my last post and I sincerly apologize. However I must say my hiatus was not in vain and I do have a plethora of new style pics and fashion tips to share. My goal is to post at minium twice a month and go from there. I miss blogging on the regular. I use my website as a platform to express who I am. I love being me and enjoy sharing my style, poetry and everything that makes me, Jamika B.!
For many years now I have struggled with generalized aniexty and major depression. I've talked about my anxiety issues in the best but never explained the effects it had on me. Aniexty is created from the fear of the unknown, in which most cases, for myself, leads to complete panic.
My aniexty issues begin to grow out of control and developed into other "disorders." I never realized how much withdrawn I became socially until the fear of being alone kicked in. The fear of pushing everyone away to the point of no return. The fear of writing a blog post because I was so insecure about myself that I didn't want my depression to show. The lack of inspiration to create and the fear of that creativity never returning. Once I began to realize the tight grip that fear had on my life, I immediately knew things were going to have to change and change soon.
I decided to invest in me. I decided I was not going to live in fear. I decided on a plan to self recovery. So what did I do? I read and I wrote everyday. I read books (which I will share later) that feed me spiritually and mentally. I wrote in several journals, each for seperate purposes. The one I am proud of the most is my, "365 Days of Gratitude" journal. I write in this journal at least 5 days a week. Each entry I write a paragraph or more on what I am gratiful for on that day, in that moment. Then on the next blank page I write my current short term goals. I like to focus on no more than 3 goals at a time. I do not want to overwhelm myself and begin to doubt in my success. After goals are set, underneath I write 20 ways to improve myself to obtain my listed goals. This is what you call brain exercises. I had to mentally strength myself in order to move past my fears that lead to my anxiety issues.
These days I am feeling good. Feeling strong and fearless. Everyday is not a walk in the park but I learn to live in the present. To appreciate that gift in time. For time waits for no man and to spend precious time in fear, is insanity.
Now that Stella has her groove back, I am back in my closet and thrifting around town! I have always believed that when you feel good, you look your best. I feel great, so I must look FIERCE! Check me out..
I am absolutely in love with this LBD I thrifted. The perfect black sequins dress for NYE.
Can we say adore? Another score thrifting this mauve pancho dress. Perfect for a fall date night.
The most stylish teacher you ever did see, Mrs. B. The top is thrifted. The skirt belonged to my grandmother and the coat I got for a great deal at Sears. Score!
I feel like I'd look perfect for The Cosby Show here. (All jokes aside. Hands down the stylist for that show was genius!) Thrifted cardigan sweater with sweater pencil skirt and distressed boots.
Thrifted dashiki. Score! I need to find more of these.
I'm the Michael Jackson Thiller! Is she not the cutest little vintage red leather jacket you ever did see?!? This look is so fun and retro.
Until next time, remember to smile, to feel good and to keep feeling better! Muah
As we close out the month of February I would like to remind you to not only celebrate Black History during February but all year long!
Introducing Ms. Donyale Luna
Born in Detroit, she had a difficult childhood and an unusual appearance. She was spotted by photographer David McCay and became a superstar of the Seventies.
Donyale truly did it all: partying at Andy Warhol's Factory, signing an exclusive contract with photographer Richard Avedon, trying her hand at acting, before dying of an overdose in 1979.
Contrary to popular belief, the first black woman to grace the cover of Vogue wasn't Naomi Campbell; it was Donyale Luna.
In 1966, she hit the cover of the British edition of the biggest fashion magazine in the world. It was a symbolic choice for the world of fashion, which was finally opening up to African cultures.
Blogger Jorge Rivas writes about Ms. Donyale Luna in an article from 2011 entitled, "Beyonce's 'Countdown' Pays Homage to Black Model Donyale Luna." He mentions how in the first 32 seconds of the video Beyonce references the famous eye make-up and eye-between-the-fingers pose of Ms. Luna.
These days it is best to save money and cut corners any way possible. If you want to save on gas money you cut back on your daily travel. To save on groceries you clip coupons. We do little tricks to help save our dollars everyday. So why not shop smart for clothes and save big!
To keep from impulse-buying, I'll put an item on hold and give myself 48 hours to think about it. Majority of the time if I don't absolutely love it I forget about it. If I can't stop obsessing I know it's worth it.
Of course thrift shopping is my go store! This list would be incomplete without this trick. The pieces I find there are inexpensive, so I don't feel bad about taking a risk. The biggest plus of shopping at a thrift store is you'll never be at a party wearing the same thing as someone else!
I make sure that I can think of three things already in my closet that will go with what I am about to buy.
Before buying something, ask yourself these questions: Can I live without this? Will I wear this once or twice? Do I already own something like this? If the answer is 'no' to all three, then get it!
It's ok to spend on classic bags and shoes that you know you will have forever. But for the season's trendiest pieces shop at less expensive sites or stores like Asos, Zara, and H&M.
Last but not least, check that the return policy is fair and keep the receipt. If you haven't worn something by the time the return policy is about to expire, take it back instead of letting it just sit in the closet. I also like to sign up for emails from my fave stores. It helps you to be the first to know about sales, so you can get the best deals.
I am feeling the need to do a black and brown challenge. I was talking with a friend last week and as we were discussing an outfit the topic of, Does black and brown match? My answer of course is YES! But many still see it as a taboo. Like mixing gold and silver.
Why is it a taboo? Basically they are two colors mostly used to balance out an outfit. Black boots, black bag. Brown boots, brown bag. But remember the rule of thumb black goes with everything. Everything? Everything!
Well now I feel the need to show black and brown off as the perfect pair! Check me out...
I got this cream jacket many years ago from Old Navy. I love when I get to wear it! I try not to wear it often, as I have a problem keeping whites and lights spot free.
I thrifted these puppies this week at my local thrift shop. I thought they were kind of cute. Reminded me of ballet shoes.
Everyone has there opinion about Beyonce performance. So here's my two cents. HATED IT! Yes, I said it. It was not horrible but it didn't make me jump and scream. I think we, the fans, were waiting for this amazing performance for this amazing song, that we love so dearly, and was highly disappointed. There were no dancers, no dance routine, no je ne sais
Happy 2014 Dolls and Gents! I am so grateful I made it to see this year. So many people did not, so I feel blessed. On New Year's Eve the hubby celebrated by going to see a comedy show at the Arie Crown Theater. It was nice but not as nice as my outfit! :) hehehehe
Check me OUT...
The gold sheath top (Unknown) and the satin red skirt (Express) were thrifted about a year ago. The nude platform heel (Guess) were from Burlington Coat Factory.
I chose to mix rose gold, gold, and sliver accessories with a light touch, just for fun! My multi-tonen metallic clutch is a vintage piece from my grandma.
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